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2010.02.21 (00:54:20)
Sermon Date:  Feb 07, 2010 
Speaker Name:  Rev. Billy Chung 
Scripture:  1 Corinthians 1:3 
Passage:  Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. 

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                                                                   Dealing with anger  pt 3

 

Anger is an emotion created by God to tell us there's a problem that needs to be corrected.

 

 

            Sinful anger is a fruit of the flesh.

 

Everyone has their own strategy for meeting their own needs for love, security and significance. In other words, we all want to feel loved, safe and important. We are supposed to get these needs met by God but instead we try to meet our needs ourselves. The different strategies we use to meet our own needs is called the flesh.

 

           

“We have all learned to rely on our own strategies for getting our needs met. The Bible calls this mechanism for servicing our own needs the flesh. Every person has developed his flesh-life in order to get what he wants out of life as much of the time as possible. Don't think of flesh as skin, but as personal techniques for meeting your own perceived needs, apart from Christ .... Walking after the flesh is simply relying on your own ability instead of on God's resources!”

 

                                                Romans 8:8

and those who are in the flesh cannot please God.

 

 

How do you respond when people are mean, selfish, and disrespectful to you?

 

Calculating avenger - “I am angry and will get revenge.”

 

            Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him. He said to himself, "The days of mourning for my father are near; then I will kill my brother Jacob.” – Genesis 27:41

 

Problems:

-Avengers hurt their bodies, others, and God

-Avengers waste their time planning revenge and neglect the essential habit of planning good.

 

 

Anger avoider

      -Afraid of their anger or the anger of others.         

      -Think that they should never get angry.

      -Try to keep the peace at all costs.

      -Wants to be known as a "nice" person

      -Sometimes so well-trained in avoiding and suppressing anger that such a person genuinely believes he or she simply has no anger.

 

      Problems: 

            Stuffing your anger limits your ability to experience positive emotions.

         They sometimes allow others to take advantage of them and then get resentful, depressed, overworked and burnt out.

 

 A man’s testimony

 

            “Since I have acknowledged my emotions (anger) and have allowed myself to accept how I feel, I am enjoying so many good feelings of joy….. I came to see that when I stuffed my bad feelings I also stuffed my good ones. It's so freeing to be myself and experience the joy of walking in who I am in Christ-that I can have normal emotions, just like Jesus did.”

 

                                       Jesus’ example

            On reaching Jerusalem, Jesus entered the temple area and began driving out those who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves,  16 and would not allow anyone to carry merchandise through the temple courts.  17 And as he taught them, he said, "Is it not written: "'My house will be called a house of prayer for all nations'? But you have made it 'a den of robbers.'“ – Mark 11:15-17

 

 

3. Anger exploiters

   -enjoy the power that comes from anger

  -use their anger to gain power over other people.

   -Try to create fear in others so that they give them what they want.

   - Emotionally, anger exploiters are little children throwing tantrums or pretending to throw them to get their way.

 

   Problems:

   -Who likes to be around a child when he/she is having a tantrum?

   -Exploiters get used because a man or woman reap what they sow.

  -Exploiters limit their joy and treasure on earth and in heaven.

  

 

4. Anger exploders

 Ie: Coach punches a locker and breaks his hand

    -Some anger exploders became that way because of painful experiences in their lives.

   -Feel justified in releasing their anger on others

   -Exploders focus on their desires and goals rather than the needs of others.

 

Problems: 

-Broken things             - broken body parts         -broken relationships and fewer relationships

Who wants to be around an anger exploder?

 

5. The Critical Perfectionist

       -Constantly striving to live up to unrealistically high personal standards and expectations

    -Place unrealistically high standards on others

-Judge and criticize others, calling them   “lazy, incompetent, stupid, idiots”, etc

 

     Motto:   Why can’t everyone be just as ……...... as me

                 (hardworking, smart, creative, strong, faithful, prayerful, responsible, etc)

 

Problems: 

    They limit their ability to enjoy life.

    Who wants to be around a critical person?

 

6. The Grump

     -Constantly complaining about something  

    - If things are going well, the grump quickly recalls a time when circumstances were unpleasant

   -Totally convinced that their future will be ……..

   -Feels that life and God has not been good to him/her

  -Thinks of himself/herself as r…………….

  -Had their hopes crushed in the past

  -Thinks it is safer to give up hope and just expect the worst.

  -Uses anger and pessimism as a shield against further pain.

 

Example:   Some Cubs fans

 

Problems:  

Grumps limit the number of relationships he/she has because….

Who likes to be around a grump?

 

-Expecting the worst destroys faith.

 

Application

1.   Stop judging others.

       “That person is a liar.”

       “That person is a loser.”

       “All men are shallow.”

       “All women are stupid.”

       “All Asians have kimchee breath and cannot be trusted.”

 

2. Focus on others’ positive qualities and pray for them.

 

3. Look to God rather than others to meet your needs for security, significance and love.

 

       So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. – Isaiah 41:10

 

Safety

“I am always above you.”

“I am strengthen you from inside.”

“I am always next to you.”

“I will always holding you up.”          

 

“I will never let you go.” – Hebrews 13:5

 

 

Now if you obey me fully and keep my covenant, then out of all nations you will be my treasured possession. Although the whole earth is mine,  6 you will be for me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.' These are the words you are to speak to the Israelites.“ – Exodus 19:5,6

 

Significance/importance

            “You are my precious jewel.” – Exodus 19:5,6

           “You belong to me.” – Exodus 19:5,6

 

                        What God thinks about me is far more important than what others think about me.”

 

 

                                                      Love

 

 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. – Romans 5:8

 

            “There is nothing you can do to make me love you any more than I do.”

 

            “There is nothing you can do to make me love you any less than I do.”

 

 

   What would God say to you if He appeared to you in person?

 

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B.  Why didn’t you ………………?

C.  Try harder!

              D. Pray more!

              E. I can’t believe you’re broken your commitment again.

              F.    …………………………..

 

Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. – 1 Corinthians 1:3

              These words appear in 15 different New Testament books.

 

“If any believer in Jesus truly grasps the reality, on a deep heart level, of how those needs are fully met in Christ, most of his or her struggles with fleshly anger will melt away.”

 

                                                Jesse’s story

-Anger exploder

-His size and anger helped him become an NFL Player

-His anger explosions led to marriage problems

-His anger toward others was fueled by his anger toward his parents for never attending any of his football games

 

-Was told by a Christian counselor, “Jesse, God is the Father you have always needed and wanted, and He has never missed one of your games!"

 

 

                                    How did Jesse respond?

A. He beat up the counselor.

B. He laughed at the counselor.

              C. He heard what the counselor said but it didn’t change his life and his wife divorced him.

              D. It changed him and saved his marriage but ended his NFL career since he didn’t play angry.

              E. ………………………

 

-He cried.

-He forgave his parents.

-His marriage was saved.

-He continued to play NFL football but with a different attitude.

            "After 20 years of playing football, that was the first game in my entire life where I enjoyed myself! "

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